All You Are Beyond Trauma

When you have a trauma history, you are somehow "sealed off" or fenced off from your essence and your being. This is my experience both as a coach to women with adversity histories and as a trauma and adversity survivor myself.

Your very nature, and who you want to bring into being moment to moment, is thwarted by the weight of trauma - ite emotional heaviness, its struggle, its lodgement in your body, in your behaviours and your thinking.

I remember this acutely, when, as a 16 year old, I lived a kind of half life. I had a broken down boyfriend who was uncaring and actually abusive, I had eating disorders and food issues, and I had afternoon walks home from school that filled me with dread as I made my way past Mrs. Martin's little corner shop and around to the house on Spencer Road which - for me - was filled with such pain and heartache.

As I made my way up the front steps of the house, I would feel a visceral clenching in my tummy - a bracing - preparation for entry to what felt (for me) like a sad war zone, like the back trenches along a Maginot Line populated by grief and the walking wounded. Can you relate at all?

Yes. The plane trees outside would rustle in the summer breeze. And yes, there was the scent of jasmine in Spring along the fence, bees buzzed too, but that thud in my tummy and that tight clenching - that grip - to seal off and protect those vulnerable areas of myself from further pain, were my only way of coping. It was like building an internal barrier of fight-flight and shutdown - a steel fortress or a set of "GET-SMART" gates of steel and wire. 

That's how I felt.

Living Now with Healing and Coaching

Fastrack 40 or so years and the situation is very different. And if you have an adversity history I hope it is for you too. 

Life - no doubt for you and for me - is about a lot more than whatever earlier experiences we endured or got through or coped with, and hopefully you and I have learned to grow beyond that earlier adversity and confusion into a more grounded state of being. 

Hopefully. 

But what if there are still pockets and areas of attention that you want to really resolve? Issues or areas that are still sticky and yet you really don't want to go down the whole therapy rabbit-hole again for yet another round of talk-fests that can even consolidate the self-image of "brokenness?"

Some of the tools I've found helpful and want to share with you are

• one to one coaching with a systemic coach
• getting real and getting structured about resolving these sticky issues as part of a spiritual path
• adopting a spiritual path that suits YOU (not me, or partner or anyone else...but YOU)
• a good diet
• a clear and comprehensive programme to follow
• being part of community such as Wise Women Sisterhood 
• plenty of sleep
• and more...

These are only a few suggestions (general) but I do think they're nice to keep in the forefront of your mind so you stay uplevelled towards growth and untangling the knotty and sticky stuff!

All Of You Beyond Adversity

The residue of early adversity really has the capacity to make or break the second half of your life.

It really does. 

Take it from me. 
I see so many women over 45+ struggling with this and just surrendering to a kind of half life - until they start really getting some clarity and direction that helps to frame a way forward that makes sense. 

If you want to find a way forward, and if you want to remove the proverbial blinkers so you wake in the morning with enervation and joy, it's essential and important, I believe, that you take stock of where you're at right here right now and commit to learning how to claim ALL OF YOU.

The kinds of strategies that are most successful are systemic. This is where I'm at and what I'm on about when I work with you. And this comes to beautiful fruition in the one to one coaching and the programmes.

Learning these can radically and rapidly change your life and bring increased joy, fun, community, groundedness, playfulness, humour and gorgeous productivity, so you feel really good about life and how you are living it!

That's what it's about.

Reach out if you want.

YOU can claim ALL OF YOU and uplevel and find peace and acceptance and make change. 

Much love,

Camilla xx