Attachment and YOU

If you're a woman over 40 who struggles a little in life in any area, maybe you want to read this!

How's your attachment style? 

And do you even know what that is?

WHAT'S YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE - Do the QUIZ

What is Attachment?

Healthy attachment is an important part of your development as a woman.

It's a relational process - which means it is ALL about relating, particularly in early life with your significant caregivers. (Parents mums and dads, step-parents, foster parents, grandparents, carers of all sorts - the people who basically bring you up in the world. They don't have to be blood related. They just have to be the MAIN carers in your life.)

When the quality of that care is lacking, or not too great, the quality of your attachment to your carers and all human beings can be impacted. This is because of these gorgeous little neurons in you called "mirror neurons" which are part and parcel of how you learn about the world, relating and your social and relationship skills.

If the quality of your caregivers' attachment is not too great, then chances are, this will impact the quality of yours! 

This can be because of any number of reasons ranging from 

• your caregivers being busy with work lives and rushing around - simply trying to put food on your table - through to more obvious issues like
• neglect, to abandonment and/or
• absence, or
• simply not knowing how to parent in a caring way because they weren't taught this themselves.
• in more serious situations it can be due to trauma and family dysfunction

Attachment and Trauma

In the more difficult circumstances, your caregivers mightn't have been able to meet your basic emotional and mental and psychological needs. They might not have been able to be present for you. They might not have known how to be loving. In worst-case scenarios, they might even have been critical, discouraging, controlling, neglectful, abusive and even physically or emotionally, sexaully or mentally hurtful towards you. 

And when that happens, it can become an issue in later life. 

So - healthy attachment is important. Very important!

Types of Attachment

There's a whole array of attachment styles, but for the sake of convenience, these are broken down into a clean and clear and crisp simple few, to make it easy for you to consider:

• SECURE
• ANXIOUS - PREOCCUPIED
• DISMISSIVE - AVOIDANT
• FEARFUL - AVOIDANT 

Can you work out which style might fit you?

It's worth it for you to really understand this, because when you get a handle on your attachment style, then you can really start working more clearly on resolving the ways in which your style is impacting the quality fo your relating and communication.

This in turn will make life easier in the home, the workplace, the community, society and everywhere you go! It will even impact the quality of your relationship with your household pets!

I kid you not!!

We've teamed up to create a great little Attachment Style quiz. It's a great resource and starter point for you to work on this stuff.

Here's a link to the quiz, - it's safe and secure - believe me, Camilla Slater Coaching knows...because we helped create it. 

Find out where you fit in the attachment scheme of things: 

WHAT'S YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE - do the QUIZ

Have you found out?

Do the quiz.

It's designed to help you, not harm you.

Much love always,

Camilla xx🌷 👑

WHAT'S YOUR ATTACHMENT STYLE - do the QUIZ

 PS. You are a queen. Believe it. xx