Evolving Your Self

How does change and change-making sit with you? 

If you are over 40 or over 45, the prospect of change can be philosophically and emotionally daunting. But it can also be crisp and fresh - embraced daily as a new practical way of life.

One of the great honours of coaching, is helping other women - women like you - navigate real change.  It's a process and relationship that is both poetically pure and simple, and also seismically complex in power and transformational impact.

RIght Here Right Now®

If you're like most women I work with, when you move into the second phase of life, you can be hit with a fair cloud of reticence and fear.

Are you experiencing fairly stark physical changes and health challenges - difficult and painful to confront? Maybe these are showing up In a number of areas of your life? It can get like that....

You might have a strong inkling you REALLY want to reset your course...but you're not quite sure how to go about it, given your life at present? 

A WELL OF REGRET?

In addition, there can also be a seemingly insurmountable and internal "well of regret." Regret and grief can go hand in hand. Regret that life hasn't quite panned out the way you wanted it to; regret for past failings; regret for wrong turns and regret about the inability to mark out new strategies that set you on a different and gorgeous path that alleviates this suffering.

Regret as The Wellspring of Change

Here on Arapito Farm where I live, we have a well - or a bore - as they're commonly called. It's a deep, concrete tunnel that reaches far down into the aquifer, where fresh, cold, invigorating water lies.

The water is freezing cold and refreshing, and it's rich with minerals from the porous volcanic rock that it travels through, underground. There's something mysterious about this well, and its life-affirming water.

We regularly pump the water up from this ground source, and in the dry summer, when the paddocks turn the colour of wheat straw and the sky is a fierce blue, and the sun is hot and the earth is parched and dry, we use this beautiful deep-down water on our gardens.

We use it to feed our birds too,(I LOVE our little bird baths,) as well as our Suffolk sheep and our Miniature Belted Galloway herd. The wild pheasants, with their bright ring-necks and gorgeous plumage, also source it.

But this cold dark well - dank and cool, mysterious and even a little foreboding to gaze down into - is rather dangerous, too.

It has a heavy concrete casing over its top so children and animals don't slip or fall in. It has the capacity to injure or even drown. So this well is in fact a source of great transformation and change. And inherent within transformation is a multitude of possibilities and options. 

Transforming Perception

How you approach this well, and how you view it - the perception you acquire and maintain and then ACT from, - will be key to whether it is a source of despair or enlightening sustenance. How do you "frame" the well? How do you perceive it? And how is your perception a construct of either present, past or future or all of these at once?

Learning how to truly transform perception extends WAY BEYOND WORDS. We're not going to tell you HOW - that's the WOO-WOO stuff we do in one-to-one coaching for women. (You'll find out exactly and start practising these strategies in Elite Coaching sessions when you come on board with me.)

So... how do I as a coach, approach the well? Firstly I approach it with a great deal of reverence, sacredness and respect. If treated in this manner, it will provide ongoing life and refreshment and health for the animals and humans, and the plants and grasses that depend on it.

Symbolism as Evolution

Wells can be a potent symbol - a deep and rich and fecund tunnel that traverses from the exogenous (external) world to the labyrinthine and porous and more liquid, interior realms of both the body and the psyche.

This has potent relevance not only on land, but also in relation to your own gorgeous and mystical life as a woman over 40. It also has rich relevance in relation to your evolution and life journey and your wish for change as a more mature woman. Symbols are signposts, anchor points and references - where longitudinal and latitudinal forces of immense significance rise to meet you and share their wisdom. 

How to ReFrame

In my systemic and Elite Coaching, I really do show you HOW to reframe current and past regret (previously uncomfortable aspects of your life that you've want to avoid at all costs) so that they're transformed into life-affirming and life-giving forces that propel you and your life forward. 

I show you how to use your regret as the fountain-source for new life... for wise change-making and regeneration, so you can embody yourself in a new way. You can engage in praxis in a new way too.

I show you how to employ what is known as "conscious enquiry," as a daily or weekly practice.

I help you to embrace and develop a new way of living action that is far more attuned with the totality of who and what you are.

These are all elements of EVOLVING YOUR SELF. 

And all of these make a lasting and profound difference to how you are both "being'' and "doing" in the world.

EMBODIED PRAXIS at its finest and most beautiful...for women.

Regrets are realities. And they can be permanently and consistently and conscientiously reframed.

How?

Come into my Elite Coaching - You can source expert coaching with me. This is specialised one-to-one coaching to help you re-story your life and even unravel your history and your current regret, so that together we set you straight on a new and flourishing path. You can book in directly via the website: Elite Coaching One-to-One 

You can also connect via email if you want to discuss the options with a little bit of "old school" style [email protected] 

You can take a risk and jump in with a free zoom 30 minute session with Camilla. Book in for a free Discovery Call with Camilla here

You may also be interested in the new and very beautiful group coaching programme where you come together with me and other women each week on Zoom for quality connection and transformational guidance and discussion. Symbiotic communication with real coaching, at its best. Systemic coaching in a grup for all women. Not scary. Loving and compassionate and also fun. https://www.patreon.com/wisewomensisterhood

Much love,

Camilla xx

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