How do you move from the constrictions of trauma, to a place of wholeness, growth and expansion?

How do you learn to sing your life with this growth potential and this kind of regenerative force?

What can you do and how do you do it? 

Trauma and Regeneration

Here on the farm - our paradise in the making, I'm confronted every day by the poetic and often rabidly ruthless forces of nature.

There's the diurnal and seasonal shifts, the tumbling changes in weather, the alteration and change in plants and livestock and the circlings and soar of the hawk as it eyes for pukekohe and duck eggs down by the wetland.

There's the quick dart of the pheasant or the lowing and moo-ing of our Miniature Belted Galloway herd in the background, as I spend a day coaching women clients online. 

Yup. It's a paradise.

And yup. It changes daily.

And yup. It takes work. (It's in constant construction phase which is fun and fabulous and challenging and very real....A bit like life.)

The flows of nature - these alterations and perpetual shifts - can actually teach you a lot about your own trauma. They teach you about growth.

It's through this process of change that I've come to flow far more with the traumas that are embedded within me, and that are also a part of the clients I work with. It's as if they are substrate parts, as deep as the volcanic rock that underpins the surface soil layers on our 18 acres. They are often unfathomable and cavernous and even wondrous and a little unnerving at times. And they are rich.

And it's this richness that must be mined.

In the same way, there is a richness to your trauma that can and must be mined and sourced and developed, if you're to move beyond it.

There's the richness in your trauma - a grand thing, and there's a grand richness and fecundity to the earth too.

If you can tap into that reality and this relationship more regularly, you can tap into the unbelievable regenerative capacities that lie within you. (You are shown how to do this properly in the elite coaching and the group programmes.)

You can grow. You can flourish. And you can begin to reside in a state of Post-Traumatic Growth.

Post Traumatic Growth Mindset

How do you feel about the term Post Traumatic Growth?

As a trauma surviving woman, how does it sit with you? Say it out loud a few times and get a feel for it and see if it resonates with you.

I actually love the term "post traumatic growth" and I love that it offers an expansive alternative to the old Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or the Post Traumatic Stress Disorder labels.

While these are often convenient and even necessary, (last week's LIVE on social media discussed this in more detail) they can also create limitations and a tendency towards a constricting self-identity that can unwittingly lock you into victimhood.

This can slow down your healing process and your life path, impacting your choices and capacity to live well. It can even cause a kind of total "stuckness" on the healing journey. 

So the point I'm getting to is that words actually matter. And the words your choose and select and source and use can contribute to your healing and growth or your constriction and stuckness. 

Trauma and the words you use

The words you choose to describe yourself really, really matter! They weave back into self-identity, self fulfilling prophecy, your place inthe world and how you claim your agency. The words you source and choose to describe you and your experiences can compound stuckness or lead to more freedom.

Think about these two terms side by side:

• Post traumatic stress disorder
• Post traumatic growth

The first suggests anxiety, difficulty and struggle and even abnormality and disarray! Yes - all these suggestions just from the words you use.

Now consider the second phrase - Post traumatic growth. It doesn't deny the presence of trauma, but the mere replacement of "growth" implies richness, evolution, expansion and moving beyond - which is exactly what you really want to be doing when you have an adversity or a trauma history. 

Which do you want to lean into?

Which do you want to use to describe your journey or your path or process or experience?

As your coach and as a woman who has worked to heal incredibly, I know which one is right for me, and I know which one helps to create a more positive mindset as I go about the day.

Have a try over the next week.

Make a choice and decision to grow and flourish with your life. 

And a little starter can be to simply reflect on your choice of wording.

Much love,

Camilla.

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