Spring and Personal Regeneration
Spring is on its way. That’s a big and beautiful deal in New Zealand, where the seasons are about as defined and distinctive as you can get.
And speaking of Spring…….
It will be magical to return to the garden in a few weeks.
After the rains of the last year I’ll definitely be bringing in someone to help as the job will be too much for me on my own. Tonnes to do.
And?
There’s always a lot of weeding - actual and metaphorical - to sort through at this time of year.
I’ll be considering a fair bit as I sift through processes, pains and areas of change, renovation and great promise.
PTSD Healing and Verbal Communication
One thing I’ve been thinking about this first week of Spring is being kind in word and conversation.
It’s so important to honest and open and real communication.
When you lose the ability to regulate yourself when in relationship with others --because you are faced with an opposing view or different opinion, you paradoxically lose your own sense of personal power.
The unhealthy exertion or assertion will inevitably lead to self loathing and often lead to shame.
You can lose self respect and connection. And you can feel alone.
Allowing for Difference on The Heroine's Journey
But difference and the ability to air and openly welcome and discuss opposing views or ways of approaching things - without being threatened - is actually a sign of healthy discussion and healthy selfhood.
It’s relationally dynamic to be able to live with that.
And it’s great.
PTSD and Emotional Regulation
And if you’re faced with difference and then lose the ability to regulate your emotions at the point of disagreement, you may have work to do.
There’s no-one to blame. It’s a sign -a time to reflect.
These kinds of ruptures can be viewed as failings or as a spring time for reflection and new change and rejuvenation. For new types of word, behaviour and action.
For growth.
Without adequate self-regulation you or I -as humans on the journey - can sadly wreak havoc on others and on self.
I know. Many years ago I was like this.
Not so much anymore. But it can happen occasionally.
And when I do witness it these days on the odd occasion out in the world?
It’s sad. And it’s not nice.
When you are unable to regulate yourself in the face of relational differences of opinion you wound self. And others.
You create unnecessary pain and disturbance to those around you in a way that does not allow for blossoming, fresh spring growth and a cool and fresh bounty of love to flourish.
It’s Spring.
Emotion Regulation
Make sure to stay emotionally regulated and emotionally real and loving.
It counts for more than anything.
It’s connected in with love.
It allows for intimacy and increased joy.
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