That Place of Unknowing

Coaching is a gratifying experience. And yesterday was particularly beautiful. I spent it with elite one to one clients and finished the evening with one of my group programmes. The symbiosis created in these always energises everyone, but in spite of this, I was able to fall off to sleep relatively quickly.

Floated off, really. Rather nice. Into the proverbial clouds...where little is known and everything is dream.

I woke at about 6 am - late for us here - skipped my meditation and instead went out early into the dawn. Out into the dawn sky, violet with life. Out to the calling pheasants, the dripping leaves, and the wet grass. I went out. Into the huge, rural sky.

That BIG and grand sky makes me feel so bloody small. It's a powerful portent and great reminder for me as a coach, because I guide others. 

Why? Because small is big.

Crazy Wisdom?

The coaching realm is replete and plump with egoic excess - with "bigness," and the sky’s vastness is a good reminder - a harbinger of humility and a nice and natural check on big-boot-big-head syndrome. Egoic health is so important and central to our beautiful transformation into all that we can be.

And egoic health is understandably systemic and expansive. Of ALL. 

But like everything, it requires consideration and balance. 

Coaching is in fact about helping YOU to develop egoic health. A kick-ass and gorgeous sense of the FULL ACTUALISATION of YOUR POTENTIAL. Yes!

You can achieve that, and some women and men choose to do that with me.

But in my view it’s one thing to attend vocationally to the sacred mentoring of others so they move towards  full actualisation of latent and every burgeoning potentials.

It’s quite another to extend willy-nilly into the domain of ‘Crazy Wisdom’ with all its inherent problems and complicating issues.

"Crazy Wisdom" is a particularly interesting coaching tool.

It has a long and profound history - stretching back to eastern philosophies. I use it, sparingly and carefully. It's fun, gorgeous, playful and gets results! BUT - inherent within it is an inseparable flaw - a flaw that requires frequent and constant monitoring...the flaw of the unchecked ego.

Chogyam Trungpa of course made it rather famous in Los Angeles and in Boulder Colorado, but its origins extend way back to Phadmasambhava and the importation of Buddhism from China to Tibet.

Its introduction to the west (along with its problematic reputation) is inextricably tied in with the various and many controversies of the flavoured LA Buddhist scene at that time - as well as the various ideologies and coaching schools/ideas that morphed on and out from that. (There's a tonne of them, and likely if you're a coach, you'll be either knowingly or unknowingly and unwittingly utilising some of these.)

Crazy Wisdom in my view?

Bloody fantastic stuff.

Also stuff to be used with a little more awareness than Trungpa used it!

And also to be used - hopefully - with grounded ethics and values, considered measure, and a good understanding of the underpinnings of human respect that extend philosophically, psychologically and emotionally beyond the purist notion of "self."

The use of Drubnyon - which in many ways is the state and place I've lived as a woman, artist, writer and elite coach for much of my life, is key to Crazy Wisdom. It's why my life has been...well..so extraordinarily rich and amazing. (Coaches who read this...please stop copying. LOL.)

But be warned. This stuff isn't a word or phrase simply to be used in a coaching conversation with a client or group, or a social media snippet.

It's socially and systemically potent and requires grounded compassion and much, much clarity and insight.

If you dip into it, it's important you have others around you who can adequately ground you and bring you back to centre when and if needed. That's why I have my own extremely skilled spiritual mentors. (2 in fact.) Crazy Wisdom is very potent. It can become intoxicating. 

After all, it even blew Trungpa's mind! (And the bodyminds of a tonne of students and coaches and gurus before and after him.)

If you don't know what happened in Trungpa's schools by now...get googling and reading, as it may help you and your choices moving forward.

Too much crazy without enough wisdom can in some cases lead to a very difficult descent into the abyss.

And so if you are considering a coach...I ask you:

What kind of women’s coach are you looking for?

• Do you want a figurehead to attach to?
• Do you want a crazy girl or guy who's lacking grounded wisdom?
• Do you want a solid and honest coach who will query and question who and what and why you are?
• And/or a fun and genius mentor to guide you?
• And/or are you attracted to the shimmy of big bucks babes or boys who guide you on how to make a beautifully Fast Dollar?
• Do you want a narcissistic coach who abuses you repeatedly? (Sadly, some do...until they work out its just more of that constraining Stockholm Syndrome patterning.)
• And/or an unresolved and unevolved coach?
• And/or or a coach who tells you all about life change, but whose own life trajectory isn't a good example of that?
• Do you want an experienced and ground and very clear coach?
• Do you want all of this and more?

Let’s be clear. In my view, not one of these models is “wrong.” Well maybe a few are, morally and ethically?Is one better or worse than another? I might disagree strongly with some of them, but that's my personal preferencing.

In my coaching, I'm clear on how and what I offer you.

And we discuss that in your Free Discovery Call RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW.

What's On Your List?

Coaching can morph into many permutations, and perhaps your main task when you’re looking for a really suitable coach is to do your best to match your needs/wants with the coach’s offerings, ideas, approach and philosophy? 

Do your research. watch and consider for a while. They hopefully have enough of themselves out in the public domain for you to get a sense of who and how they are and what they are. 

Select a coach who resonates with you! Here's some questions to consider:  🌸

• What are your needs/wants?
• What do you want to create?
• Do you want guidance?
• Do you want support to create your own path
• Do you want to be told what to do?
• Do you want to evolve and find new paths and options you hadn't thought about before?
• Do you want a star player mentor?
• Do you want compassionate support?
• Do you want considered and wise change?
• Do you want fast pace? Do you want slow pace? Or ALL?
• What areas or all do you want to work on and re-story?
• Do you want a coach who helps you move beyond your own constraining thoughts and self-limiting, stock standard options? You know…the ones that you keep going back to - that lead to the same inevitable issues and mistakes?
• DO YOU want ALL of the above?
• Do you want none of them and just want Unravelling Into Purity?

These are a few of the questions you could consider?

Here at CAMILLA SLATER COACHING, I work with you one to one over time so you change either one or even ALL aspects of your life. Some of my clients have worked with me for years. And years. And years. They're not going anywhere in a hurry. My business model is structured for duration and I do that intentionally.

Your relationship with me will be grounded in honesty, clarity and a beautiful dose of compassionate and conscious enquiry. And change. Real change.

You'll even be guided with trauma-informed strategies that help you Re-Story both your life and direction, if that’s what you’re needing or wanting.

And you might also be brought into a realm of unknowing - a cloud of unknowing at the very cusp of things. This is where the real juice is! This is the change realm. Good things can and do happen.

Even for you. I tell you. Find out about my life story - contact me and ask me. I'm happy to talk with you about it.

It's pretty amazing and started out with the wrong kind of change before I consolidated and worked with strategies that transformed me and my life to what it is today. A life that is FULL OF THE right kinds of CHANGE - and it might even inspire you to take my hand and believe it can happen for you too. 

You’ll be taken beyond self and storying. Beyond a locked-in syndrome of self-imposed narratives about the self and the world you are a part of. You’ll find immeasurable self-worth and capacity for transformation.

We’ll guide you to make THAT happen.

It can happen.

In the areas of relationships, Life Path LIfe Direction, Self-esteem, Diet and health, Weight and obesity, Trauma and abuse, Creating and creativity, Small business, Mapping finances, your Spiritual realm and your Family and Friendship life. Have an issue? Want to create a new life?

Reach out.

I’m here.

If I’m right for you, you’ll get an inkling.

I'll use a LOT OF WISDOM with YOU...and a TINY BIT OF CRAZY...just enough to steep it in the right kind of feminine Woo-Woo. 

Let’s get you to that place of unknowing - that beautiful change realm. Where the juice is.

That’s when and where you and I will make the greatest, magical change.

Elite one to one coaching with Camilla

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Love always,

Be kind and live your life with integrity,

Camilla xx