Trauma and Self-Talk

When you own a regenerative farm as a hobby, life can get beautifully hectic. It's lovely and at times it's loud. (It's not all twittering birds although it is mostly.)

There really are times when you look out the kitchen window while making a cuppa, and you have to drop everything, run out the back door and holler loudly at a sheep who's munching on a newly blooming Iris in your garden. (Whoops I left he latch off the post and rail gate! Yes I did. Yesterday.) 

Or you might have to shout out to your husband down near the Willow on the drive, or call out to the dogs who've ducked across into the neighbour's vegetable patch for a bit of a snuffle and sneaky reconnaissance.

So things can occasionally get loud and they can indeed get frustrating.

And for women with trauma histories, loud and frustrating can sometimes get confronting and difficult. 

It's really important how to manage the highs and lows of life and the pressing issues that come your way as woman with a trauma history.

And one of the keys to handling this is learning HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF-TALK as a trauma-surviving woman (or man.) 

Complex PTSD symptoms in adults and women over 40

How are you talking to yourself and with yourself? When Complex PTSD symptoms in adults flare up, you can find yourself elevating into more frustrated and emotionally charged communication styles. This involves your relationship with yourself and your relationship with other people.

One minute you can appear calm, and the next moment inflamed. This causes havoc for you personally - you may begin to berate yourself internally, or becomes aggressive or intolerant with yourself. Your self-talk may spiral from calm and concise and compassionate, to fraught and difficult and even downright self-hateful and derogatory. (So many women clients speak of this dilemma at times.) 

This can then result in further spirals down, into shame and depression and another cycle of worthlessness.

Sadly this can then be difficult also for those around you - for loved ones, friends and family, workplace associates and others in your community.

But these complex PTSD symptoms - and their relationship with the words you speak to yourself, can be lessened and even eliminated.

How to repair your autonomic nervous system

One of the key issues you will want to address early on in your trauma healing journey, is how to repair your autonomic nervous system. It is certainly not the WHOLE story, but it forms a part of what you want to attend to so you find freedom from NEGATIVE PTSD SELF- TALK.

So how can you do this? How can you really repair your autonomic nervous system once and for all?

Here's a few simple and valuable pointers to help you begin:

• Learn a few basic breath techniques for calming. These are readily available on YouTube. The 4-7-8 strategy is my go to and is always shared with clients early on
• Practice mindfulness. Slow down. Slow down and develop awareness. This in turn helps you talk more gently to yourself and other people
• Share your PTSD symptoms and self-talk struggle with others. You know the old adage - a problem shared really is a problem-halved. And yes...I know I know you feel ashamed...I did too, once upon a time, but if you share the pain you will start to heal and change
• Check out Camilla Slater's other blog articles and videos on the https://www.camillaslater.com website - you might find some other info on the website that helps.  

Healing your self-talk and communication style

Mostly, what I do want to say to you very personally and very directly, is these are ALL issues I have suffered from and struggled with in my own personal trauma healing journey. 

It is tough to begin to acknowledge how your own self-talk is so fraught with internal retraumatization which keep you looped back in to struggle time and time again. 

But if I can go from experiencing intensely negative self-talk styles in my earlier life, to now speaking to myself - and importantly to others - in a way that is so much kinder, compassionate and loving and assertive and real, then you really can too.

Hope for the trauma surviving woman is what I am all about. Hope for you.

Trauma recovery is possible

You come from all walks of life and from all backgrounds. You come from near and from far. You come from workplaces and success, and from struggle and silence.

You come from wealth and financial freedom and you come from ordinary life. You also come from financial strain and I was once there. Believe me. 

I want each and every single woman who reads this - and that does mean YOU - to know that you can and will make change.

You can and will, when you work with a lived experience mentor and coach who has also trodden the exact same path. 

It is so brilliant when you finally work with someone who really has learned the beautiful art of healing trauma once and for all and has then learned about change and new ways of living - who really has uplevelled as a part of a strategy of healing AND as a lifestyle choice and way of being and doing in the world.

This is possible. Really possible for you. 

Hope and transformation is possible - so that your trauma symptoms heal and so that your relationship with you, and others and the world and everything in it also heals.

Your relationship with yourself and other people are transformed into what they always should have been and what you actually deserve them to be.

This is so important. So very, very important. 

So, learn, heal and enjoy your life today.

And if you are interested, more comprehensive and in depth coaching occurs in group programmes and one to one coaching with Camilla Slater.

You can book in for a free and compassionate and really great Discovery Call and start the hope flowing back into your life.

Here's the Pink Link to book

Free Discovery Call with Camilla Slater

Look forward to meeting.

Love from Camilla xx